Which style of parenting did your caregiver/mother/father use in rearing you? What effects do you think their parenting styles had on your development?
My parents defiantly used an authoritative approach to parenting and for that I am eternally grateful. This allowed me to grow up with discipline, that is, knowing that sometimes one has to do as he or she is told to. I am thankful for this because if one tries to live in today’s world while only doing what he or she want to do they will either end up dead or in prison(sense most people are fundamentally concerned with utility maximization). However, I am also glad my parents were authoritative because it gave me the right amount of independence. They allowed me to question their orders/rules, and always replied with a reasonable response, even if I did not feel at the time that it was reasonable. This constructive dialogue allowed us to talk about and work through what most families only fight about. I believe if my parents used a different style, I would have turned out to be worse off. If they were authoritarian, I could be less independent and never question anything. If they were permissive indulgent I could be a spoiled little brat who thinks my poop doesn’t stink. If they were permissive negligent, I could have grown up thinking there were no rules because no one really cares. So I am glad I grew up the way I did because this way I have the right portion of independence and obedience.
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My parents defiantly used an authoritative approach to parenting and for that I am eternally grateful. This allowed me to grow up with discipline, that is, knowing that sometimes one has to do as he or she is told to. I am thankful for this because if one tries to live in today’s world while only doing what he or she want to do they will either end up dead or in prison(sense most people are fundamentally concerned with utility maximization). However, I am also glad my parents were authoritative because it gave me the right amount of independence. They allowed me to question their orders/rules, and always replied with a reasonable response, even if I did not feel at the time that it was reasonable. This constructive dialogue allowed us to talk about and work through what most families only fight about. I believe if my parents used a different style, I would have turned out to be worse off. If they were authoritarian, I could be less independent and never question anything. If they were permissive indulgent I could be a spoiled little brat who thinks my poop doesn’t stink. If they were permissive negligent, I could have grown up thinking there were no rules because no one really cares. So I am glad I grew up the way I did because this way I have the right portion of independence and obedience.
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