Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Assignment 8
While I was growing up my parents used an authoritative parenting style. They taught me to be responsible for my own actions and always had me thinking about the consequences of my actions. They had several rules for me to follow. But if I ever did break one of the rules or do something I know I should not have been doing, they sat me down and we talked about it before they punished me. I was able to understand why what i had done was wrong so I could correct it in the future. I always knew that if I got in trouble I dissapointed them and that was punishment enough. If I ever did not agree on a punishment, I knew I could have an open conversation with them. This kind of parenting effects me today because I am very responsible for my actions. I do not blame my mistakes on someone else and I am able to take full responsibility for what I have done wrong and I am able to correct it the next time a situation like it occurs. I had a very open relationship with my parents and I am very thankful for it today.
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I know the feeling. I knew if I disappointed my parents that was enough punishment. I felt more disappointment and shame through verbal punishment than having been punished or grounded. I knew my boundaries and consequences and that was enough to keep me from doing wrong. Looking back I’m glad I had parents that raised me like that because I feel like I am a more responsible person.
I agree, it is very important to discuss wiwth children what they have done wrong, why they did in and how they can prevent doing it in the future, because oftem children honestly don't know that they are doing anything wrong.
I agree as well that children should be told why what they're doing is wrong. Just saying it's wrong doesn't mean it's going to prevent it from happening again. Giving a reason can make it more likely the child will understand and stop the bad behavior.
I couldn't relate more!! I felt the same, even though a punishment was coming, just knowing I was in trouble was MORE than enough punishment most of the time. Even though punishment wasn't fun, I'm glad they made those decisions. They definitely shaped who I am today in a postitive way.
I liked how you mentioned that your parents sat you down and talked about why you were going to be punished before they did so. I believe this is a very important part of being an authoritative parent because otherwise the child may take the point of view that I am getting punished because I was bad. In contrast to the point of view that I am being punished because I broke a rule that I understand, and I also understand why that rule is important. If children grow up with the first p.o.v. they my never question anything and may feel an inferiority to others (from the notion that they are just bad).
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